How do I know if I am suicidal?
Do you wish you could go to sleep and not wake up? Have you been thinking you would be better off dead? Perhaps you have been planning how you would end your life or making preparations for when you’re not here. You may have actually begun to take action to hurt yourself in a way that could kill you. These are increasingly serious levels of what are called suicidal behaviors.
Any of these thoughts or actions requires attention; the more serious of them need immediate attention. If you have serious thoughts of death, suicide or are thinking about hurting or killing yourself, call the Veterans Crisis Line, at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1. You can also use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat. Both services provide free, confidential support 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Most people who consider suicide have problems they think they can never overcome. They think no one can help them and that suicide is the only way out. People who are considering suicide may feel:
- Helpless—like there is nothing they can do to make things better
- Hopeless—they think that their problem cannot be solved; not by anyone
- Worthless—they think that they are unable to help themselves or feel like a failure
- Like they are a burden to others
- As if the pain of living is too much to bear
Some Veterans’ pain may come from having been through traumatic events like the death of a buddy from their unit, seeing people die, or sexual assault or abuse that was experienced either as an adult or during childhood. Other Veterans’ difficulties may be the result of a major setback such as a divorce, losing a job, or feeling as if one has lost one’s honor, sense of self worth, and purpose in life. Some people may think about suicide due to the build up of stress, depression, anxiety, or posttraumatic stress that makes life seem as if it’s just not bearable anymore.
No matter what the reason, people do not attempt suicide because they want to die, but because they see suicide as the only way to escape the pain of living. It is important to realize that there are many ways to handle any problem—even if you can’t see a solution yourself. Sometimes you need an outside perspective from someone else to see new answers to personal problems. Other medical conditions such as depression, posttraumatic stress, and chronic pain may lead to thoughts of suicide. There are effective treatments and resources for these conditions.
What are the warning signs of suicide?
There are different types of warning signs you may see in yourself or another person who may be in crisis. All warning signs require attention, and some need immediate attention. Some people will make jokes about suicide when they are having suicidal thoughts. Others may even appear calmer or happier than usual because they have decided to attempt suicide and feel relief at making a decision. Not everyone who makes a suicide attempt shows warning signs. However, signs of suicide should always be taken seriously, even if the person seems to be joking.
If you recognize any of the following signs of suicide in yourself or others, you should reach out for support:
- Feeling hopeless, trapped, or like there’s no way out
- Having trouble sleeping or eating—that doesn’t go away or continues to get worse
- Feeling anxious or agitated
- Feeling like there is no reason to live
- Feeling rage or anger
- Engaging in risky activities without thinking
- Increasing alcohol or drug misuse
- Withdrawing from family and friends
The following warning signs require immediate attention:
- Making a plan for how or when to attempt suicide
- Frequently talking, writing, or drawing about death or about items that can cause physical harm
- Acting recklessly or engaging in risky activities—seemingly without thinking
- howing violent behavior such as punching holes in walls, getting into fights or self-destructive violence; feeling rage or uncontrolled anger or seeking revenge
- Looking as though you have a “death wish,” tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death, such as driving fast or running red lights
- Giving away prized possessions
- Putting your affairs in order, tying up loose ends, and/or making out a will
- Seeking access to firearms, pills, or other means of harming yourself
- Preparing the military formal dress uniform for wear without any formal function to attend (i.e. weddings, Military Balls, etc.)
It is important to get help right away if you notice any of these signs. Getting support can help you to see there are solutions to your problems and that you don’t need to resort to suicide.
What is the treatment for suicidal thoughts and behavior?
No matter what problem you are dealing with, there is support and there are things you can do to solve it. Veterans of all ages and eras have sought help for suicidal thoughts and behavior and are living better lives today. You can hear stories from fellow Veterans and Service members about their own battles with suicidal thoughts and behavior and how they overcame them.
Treatments to cope with suicidal thoughts and behaviors can involve counseling, medication, or a combination of these. Counseling can help you see new solutions and perspectives that may not have occurred to you, and give you better ways of coping. Medications affect the chemicals in your brain that may be contributing to your feeling down and thoughts of suicide.
In addition to treatment, you can adjust your lifestyle to help prevent or deal with suicidal thoughts. Be sure to take time to:
- Set reasonable goals for yourself
- Cut back on obligations if you are overworked
- Spend time with family, friends, or buddies to avoid feeling isolated
- Exercise and get enough sleep
- Slow down, using relaxation techniques, such as meditation or deep breathing
What can I do to cope with suicidal thoughts and behaviors?
If you are having thoughts of harming yourself or wishing you were dead, you should talk to someone right away. Your family and friends may already know that you’re having a tough time. You may want to turn to them and let them know what you’re feeling and thinking.
“I thought, ‘What’s the purpose of me living?’ I really didn’t want to be here anymore. But what saved me was finding this great therapist at the VA, after I admitted myself into the hospital. That was the first time that I was able to open up about what I had been through.”
You can also call the Veterans Crisis Line, at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, or use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat. Both services provide free, confidential support 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
You can also take a confidential self-check quiz to better understand what you’re going through, learn if it may be a good idea to seek professional help, and see how you might benefit from VA or community-based services. Your anonymous answers to a brief list of questions will be reviewed by an experienced counselor who will then send you a personal response to a secure website. The counselor will also provide you with resources and options for further follow-up.
Take the next step – Make the connection.
Every day, Veterans improve their lives by connecting with helpful resources and effective treatments for suicidal thoughts and behavior. You shouldn’t try to handle suicidal thoughts and behavior on your own, so talking to your family and friends can be a first step. You can also connect with:
- The Veterans Crisis line at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, or use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat. This service is free and confidential, and you do not have to be enrolled in VA to call the Veterans Crisis Line
- Your family doctor: Ask if your doctor has experience treating Veterans in crisis or can refer you to someone who does
- A mental health professional, such as a therapist
- Your local VA Medical Center or Vet Center: VA specializes in the care and treatment of Veterans
- A spiritual or religious advisor
Explore these resources for more information about signs of suicide in Veterans.
Veterans Crisis Line
This website connects Veterans in crisis and their families and friends with qualified, caring VA responders through a confidential toll-free hotline and online chat. If you are thinking about death or suicide, call the Veterans Crisis Line now at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1 or use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat. Both services provide free, confidential support, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. http://veteranscrisisline.net/
If you are a combat Veteran or experienced any sexual trauma during your military service, bring your DD214 to your local Vet Center and speak with a counselor or therapist—many of whom are Veterans themselves—for free, without an appointment, and regardless of your enrollment status with VA. http://www2.va.gov/directory/guide/vetcenter_flsh.asp
VA Suicide Prevention Website
This website provides suicide prevention resources and information for Veterans and their friends and families. http://www.mentalhealth.va.gov/suicide_prevention/
VA Medical Center Facility Locator
This website will allow you to search for VA programs located near you. If you are eligible to receive care through the Veterans Health Administration, you can enroll in one of VA’s treatment programs. http://www2.va.gov/directory/guide/home.asp?isflash=1
The information on this page is from http://maketheconnection.net/conditions/suicide
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) has some very useful information about who may be at risk for suicide and how to prevent suicide
Suicide Prevention Network, Georgia is a local agency to support not only people who are in crisis but also family members.
Veterans Crisis Line: The Veterans Crisis Line connects Veterans in crisis and their families and friends with qualified, caring Department of Veterans Affairs responders through a confidential toll-free hotline, online chat, or text. Veterans and their loved ones can call 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, chat online, or send a text message to 838255 to receive confidential support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Support for deaf and hard of hearing individuals is available.
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): NAMI has many resources for veteran suicide prevention and awareness.
Defense Suicide Prevention Office (DSPO): This Department of Defense office serves as the oversight authority for, among other functions, the development and evaluation of veteran suicide and risk reduction programs and policies to reduce the impact of suicide on Service members and their families.
National Alliance to End Veteran Suicide: A volunteer-based organization whose mission is to end veteran suicide in our nation through their focus areas of education, research, resource provision, and community collaborations.
Kristin Brooks Hope Center (VET2VET): An online crisis center by veteran volunteers that provides emotional support to those in their darkest hour.
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP): AFSP is an organization bringing together people across communities and backgrounds to understand and prevent suicide, and to help heal the pain it causes.
Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans of America (IAVA): IAVA is an organization that strives to improve the lives of Iraq and Afghanistan veterans and their families through programs in four key impact areas: supporting new veterans in health, education, employment and building a lasting community for vets and their families.
CareForTheTroops Inc.is a 501c3 Non-Profit formed to develop a network of civilian faith communities, civic organizations, and networks of therapists all trained and able to work with the military members, veterans, and their families as they adjust to the changes experienced during and after returning from deployments and combat.
Give An Hour:A non-profit and volunteer based organization that provides mental health services to veterans.
America's Heroes at Work: Welcome to America's Heroes at Work - a U.S. Department of Labor (DOL) project that addresses the employment challenges of returning service members living with Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) and/or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
My Army Benefits:The US Army official benefits website This link also provides some information on suicide facts.
Welcome Back Veterans:Resource to help veterans returning from deployment.
Local organizations, resources and services
This is the information for Georgia’s largest provider of VA services and the web site address. Atlanta VA Medical Center 1670 Clairmont Road Decatur, GA 30033 Phone: (404) 321-6111 hrs. 8:00a.m-4:30p.m. Website www1.va.gov/Atlanta 24-hour VA suicide hot line : 1-800-273-TALK
Veterans Heart Georgia: This grass roots organization utilizes innovative approaches to helping veterans of all wars with the entire spectrum of the effects of war and military service. The organization is made up of veterans, mental health professionals and citizens.
Veterans Empowerment Organization of Georgia: provides assistance to veterans who are neglected, sick, hungry and homeless in the state of Georgia.
Homeless Assistance Resources in Georgia: A list of all resources found for the state of Georgia – from the National Resources Directory (NRD), which connects wounded warriors, service members, veterans, their families and care givers with those who support them.